Who are you in 25 questions?

Hey Doves,

It has been a while, I know… I’m sorry. I just needed a mental break from blogging for a bit and do a bit of soul searching if you must but I’m back and I’m better *Tiller voice*

Today’s post is inspired by a blog post I saw on this amazing blog where the author came up with 25 questions to get you thinking about yourself and who you are, I thought it would be a good post to resume writing with, especially considering why I took a break.

So let’s get started shall we?!

What does your ideal day look like?

Being the hermit that I am, an ideal day would consist of a nice nap because ever since I started working naps seem to be a thing of the past… I miss them. Also, the ability to eat as much junk food as I want without getting sick or putting on the extra calories lol and the obvious one would be binging on all my shows because a little Netflix and Chill never hurt anyone *not that kind of Netflix and Chill, you nasties*

What did you want to be when you were younger?

When I was younger I wanted to be an entertainment journalist, even wrote it in my year 5 faux autobiography project that one day I wanted to be as big as Ryan Seacrest and freelance for Teen Vogue *yeah I was that kid haha*… Well I still want to be an entertainment journalist and currently working in the industry pursuing my dream so it all worked out.

Who are you most inspired by? Why?

I am inspired by a multitude of women, the most notable being my mum, Selena Gomez, Michelle Obama and Yara Shahidi. However, I am most inspired by my mum because she taught me the importance of being a strong, empowered woman in a world where women aren’t always respected. She gave me a voice and always inspires me to pursue my dreams. She is the strongest woman I know and a benchmark to being a real woman.

Who would you love to meet? What would you ask?

Selena Marie Gomez and Michelle Obama- both women inspire me throughout my endeavours and career goals.

What habit would you most like to break? What habit would you most like to start?

I have a terrible habit of not wanting to talk about things I’m going through and it has often made my mental health extremely low so I would love to break out of this habit. I would love to start drinking more water, rather than keep on saying how bad I should do it.

Think of a person you truly admire. What qualities do you like about that person?

Selena Gomez. Her grace. Her heart. Her beauty. Her soul.

How do you like to relax?

Listen to music, either country or old Disney Channel.

When was the last time you did something you were afraid of?

I started working looooooool

What are you most proud of?

Getting my dream job at the age of 19 and straight out of sixth form.

What are you most afraid of?

Death.

If life stopped today, what would you regret not doing?

Falling in love

Travelling more

Appreciating my family more

Who would you like to connect (or reconnect) with? Why?

What qualities do you admire in others?

Honesty

Loyalty

Adventure

Warmth

Passionate

What practical skills do you wish you had?

I wish I was good at anything STEM related.

Imagine you’re in your 90s. What memories would you like to have? What stories do you want to tell?

What is your favorite book/movie/song? Why?

Favourite book? The Mortal Instruments series by Cassandra Clare and When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalinithi

Favourite Movie? The Princess Bride

Favourite Song? Brad Paisley ft Alison Krauss- Whiskey Lullaby

If you could make one change in the world, what would it be?

Peace. Just peace.

What do you love to do for, or give to others (not an object – something from you personally)?

My heart.

What excites you?

Falling in love *gawd I really am a saddo*

Being successful

Travelling

What do you wish you did more of?

Laugh more and love more.

Pretend money is no object. What would you do?

Travel, start charities for homeless youth and LGBT teens, build schools in low GDP countries, source a new water and energy supply for those in poor countries and create affordable housing for those in the welfare system.

Let’s jump forward a year. What would you like to have achieved in the past year?

All I want in the next year is to grow in confidence, get cuter, interview a ton of celebrities and become a better blogger.

How do you want to be remembered in life?

Always an activist, never a pacifist.

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A note to the haters

Hey guys,

Today’s post is more or less a career rant, it is a rant about something that I have experienced often when I tell people, specifically those in the creative industry that I want to become an entertainment journalist.

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For as long as I can remember, I have wanted to be like Ryan Seacrest, I didn’t just want to be like him… I wanted to be him. My passion for entertainment journalism started at a relatively young age, 7 to be precise and my love for the industry has only grown as I have got older and seen just how much the media, particularly the entertainment industry and ‘celebrity’ culture shapes our identity and influences how we see ourselves.

*Disclaimer: Some of you may be thinking, why was a seven year old watching E! News and not Noddy or something, well I had an older sister and she controlled what we watched a lot of the time so those of you that have older siblings can relate. Blame her for getting me hooked, my mum certainly wasn’t impressed, she used to force me to watch ITV News with Trevor McDonald so I could see it ‘from both sides’ and be more socially aware.*

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But, back to my rant, my issue is that so many people in the industry often turn their nose up at entertainment journalism for not being serious enough, important enough, or even socially active, which is both ignorant and a indication of the lack of diversity within newsrooms and the industry.

This idea that a young person can’t talk about One Direction and White privilege or the economy is a reflection of the backward ideologies that have dominated the media industry for far too long. It’s time for a change!

Just because I want to write about Selena Gomez’s latest single or Harry Style’s new girlfriend, does not mean that I am lazy or absent minded… I have always been vocal about human rights and socially active, I will continue to do so within my career. Even within entertainment, one can hold others to account and stand up for those deprived of a voice.

I truly believe that if you are passionate about standing for something, you can do it all.

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I don’t just do this for myself, I do it for my family, I do it for my friends who have supported me since day 1, I do it for the young people from working class backgrounds who have dreams but need purpose, I do it for my future, but most importantly I do it for those who don’t have a voice, who no matter how loud they shout never get heard.

I need you to know that I hear you and I am here for you, we will do this together and one day we will ride together. I just need to fight for us.

There is a common misconception that us millennials do not care about things that matter, what is it they call us… the ‘snowflakes.’

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We only care about selfies, avocados, coconut water and Buzzfeed right?

Some of us do, some of don’t, some of us love all of that and can school you on just about anything you throw at us.. the good thing about us ‘snowflakes’ is that we are socially intersectional and will continue to break barriers and plough through ignorance and hate.

How many of our elders can look in the mirror and say the same?

Before I leave, I just want to say Happy Pride Month to all my LGBT readers. Let’s all spread the rainbow and just love each other because at the end of the day- love wins!

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Until next time,

Savannah

xoxo

Interview: James TW

James TW was discovered by Shawn Mendes on Youtube, who soon organised a meeting with his record label that led to James being signed to UNIVERSAL/Island records- a label that has signed talent such as Demi Lovato, Nick Jonas, Mike Posner and Shawn Mendes.

James was the sole opening act on the sold out Shawn Mendes World Tour and even performed on Ellen in January. He is a rising British star and I got the chance to interview him this week just before his gig at Bush Hall, Shepards Bush in London.

I spoke to James about his album, touring with Shawn Mendes and who he would most like to vs in a game of Basketball… watch the interview below to find out everything he said!

 

 

Guest Blog: Izzy talks living with IBD!

Hello Doves!

I should start by telling you that I’m not Savannah (I totally got you with the nickname though, didn’t I?). No, I’m actually Izzy.

Like Savannah, I’m 19, I blog, and I am an apprentice working in the media industry (while Savannah hangs with celebs and journalists, I am on the other end of the spectrum working on social media for government policy…). Unlike Savannah, however, I have a thing called Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD), which is what I’ll be telling you lovel all about!

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For background, IBD is an umbrella term for Crohn’s Disease and Ulcerative Colitis. Both auto-immune diseases are relapsing/remitting (they go away and then flare up) and cause inflammation in the digestive system- Crohn’s can happen anywhere from mouth to bum, while UC’s inflammation occurs mostly in the colon- that’s the one that I’ve got.

About 115,000 people in the UK have IBD, and its most common with people reaching retirement, though there are more and more diagnoses in children. Symptoms include a sudden and/or dramatic loss of weight, diarrhoea… diarrhoea with mucus in it… bloody diarrhoea, extreme fatigue, nausea, abdominal pain and bloating. There are also ‘extra-intestinal manifestations- bonus symptoms as I like to call them- that can impact your joints, eyes and skin. Oh, and I couldn’t not mention the potential impact on mental health.

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Now, don’t worry, the biology lesson is over! But I have to ask a question: how many of you saw the phrase IBD and felt offended I had offered background? Now, how many of you thought “IBWhat?”

Chances are, more of you fall in the latter category, and that’s okay. I knew nothing about the disease until I had it living inside me. I’d guess it’s because most people don’t comfortably talk about their poo, especially not 19 year old girls that blog and work in the media industry (I’m talking to you Savannah- open up, give the readers what they want!).

I’ll tell you something else about IBD now. For the most part, I look exactly like all of the other girls my age, if you don’t get close enough to see my eye bags, thinning hair and bruised inner arms… That makes IBD an ‘invisible illness’.

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I think I’ve told you everything I possibly could. Now, what do I want you to do with all of this new information?

Firstly, don’t forget it. It took a lot of my energy to write all of these fancy facts.

Next, stop being uncomfortable when talking about your bathroom habits, if you know what I mean. If you don’t, I’m talking about your poo. Being disgusted is what prevents people like me from opening up about our health.

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Finally, be health conscious. I mean this in two ways. Firstly, be aware of your own health. Don’t be embarrassed to see your GP, or even just tell a loved one, if you think there’s something not quite regular with your gastro-health. Secondly, remember that IBD, as much as I want us all to talk about everything, is a personal disease. Don’t offer unsolicited advice or recommendations- cutting out gluten will not cure me, I’ll have this disease forever. Don’t compare my IBD to your uncle’s friend’s son’s IBS- they’re not the same and I won’t listen to it.

I hope you learnt something new from this, and if you want to find out more, visit my blog: izzysstory.com. Fear not, I don’t only blog about my health, it’s pretty eclectic.

Thanks Savannah for letting me share my thoughts!

Izzy x

Snow White and the what now?!

A new Snow White parody film, starring Chloe Grace Moretz has been causing controversy on social media, after it’s promotional poster was released, earlier this week.

The film has been criticised for promoting an unhealthy, body shaming message which suggests that curvier girls are not beautiful. The poster is extremely problematic and demonstrates what it is so wrong in society.

For years, society has demonised the bigger, curvier girl denouncing her as ‘lazy’, ‘unloved’ and ‘unattractive.’ It has penalised them for not looking a certain way- a way that only seeks to attract the male gaze and has never been in the best interest of women.

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Plus size model *oh how I hate the term plus size* Tess Holliday has criticised the poster saying “How did this get approved by an entire marketing team? Why is it okay to tell young kids being fat=ugly? @ChloeGMortez

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Chloe Grace Mortez was quick to respond to backlash.

She tweeted, “I have now fully reviewed the marketing for Red Shoes, I am just as appalled and angry as everyone else, this wasn’t approved by me or my team.”

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The poster has also received backlash from parents who feel the film will make their children feel insecure. How can this be allowed, one parent asked.

To put it simple, this is allowed because let’s be honest Hollywood is still so male dominated and patriarchal, that when they make or cast female characters, they think about it with their second brain rather than the one they should use.

It is the same reason why actresses like Mila Kunis and Megan Fox are always portrayed as the sex symbols and love interests, whilst talented actresses like Melissa Mccarthy are always seen as the joker and just a friend in films.

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*Disclaimer- all of the women I mentioned above are sexy in their own right, I have girl crushes on them all haha*

Don’t get me worry, the last few years has seen a progression in the way women are treated and portrayed in the media, with models like Ashley Graham catapulting in the fashion industry, However, there is still a long way to go.

Ladies, never stop fighting for equality and always stand up for what you believe. You are beautiful beyond words can say, never let anyone tell you different.

Watch the trailer here: 

Until next time,

Savannah x

I DYED MY HAIR

Doves,

I did it! I finally did it! After years of saying that I wanted to dye my hair, but pulling out at the last minute, I took the plunge and got my mum to dye my hair ultra violet and I LURVEEEE it!

Honestly, I am so happy that I finally did it, because it has been one of the best decisions I have made this year.

For those of you that are wondering why I wanted to dye my hair so bad, it was pretty much because I always hated my natural hair colour. It was brown, but not one of those nice, hued browns, instead it was what I called a ‘dead brown’- it didn’t really stand out and I always felt that it made me look washed out.

So, a few weeks ago I started researching best hair dyes for dark hair, but most importantly thick hair. Due to my bi-racial background, my hair is extremely layered and thick, so I wanted to make sure that the company I bought would be well equipped to actually dye it and I wasn’t wasting my money.

After binge-watching youtube videos and scouring reviews, I came to the conclusion that Schwarzkopf was the best option.

I then proceeded to go to my local superdrug to find a colour, I already knew what colour I wanted but I just needed to find the one that was closet to it.

 

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I chose the LIVE XL in Ultra Violet, as it is made specifically for dark hair and the colour really stood out to me.

This is how my hair looks now! Isn’t it gorge ❤

I really lurveeee it, it makes me feel so confident especially because my hair was such an insecurity for me.

So if you happen to see me anytime soon, it is likely I will be hair flicking every second haha.

Until next time,

Savannah x

Get To Know Me Tag!

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I have been planning this post for like over a month but haven’t had time to put together all the questions and answers because, life. But I am currently binge-watching gilmore girls and maybe it is the fact that I have managed to complete three seasons in two days but now more than ever, I have the motivation to finally complete this post. *eek I am excited* *sidenote: thank you to all my wonderful friends that sent me questions*

Full name? 

Savannah Lexus Mullings-Johnson

Age?

19

Favourite Colours

Black and Peach

Where do you see yourself in ten years? 

Hopefully, working as a successful entertainment journalist. Preferably living in either LA or Australia. Married with one child, maybe two depending on where I am in my career, but as of right now I can only see myself with one kid.

What is your favourite phrase? 

I must say that I am one of those people that come up with really weird, quirky phrases that no sane person ever would; saying that you would need a dictionary for my phrases is somewhat of an understatement. Below are some of my favourites:

“Me Dead”- used to describe a funny situation, technically a replacement for LOL.

“Fartfoolishness”- used to describe something idiotic

What’s the best concert you’ve been to? 

So I’ve seen One Direction, Kacey Musgraves, the cast of hit show Nashville, been BBC radio 1 teen awards three times but the one that really takes the trophy has to be DNCE, who I saw in August of this year. Everything about the DNCE concert was perfect: it was intimate, energetic and good fun.

Would you ever do reality tv? 

Yes, if I felt it was the right show and right for me at the time then yes definitely. I love reality tv so for sure!

Top 5 world destinations you want to visit?

  1. Bali
  2. Hawaii
  3. Rome
  4. U.S
  5. Spain

If you could bring one fictional character to life, who would it be?

Nathan Scott from One Tree Hill then I would marry him, because Naley is goals ❤

Star Sign?

Scorpio

Favourite TV shows?

  1. One Tree Hill
  2. Gilmore Girls * I might have just started but it is already a fave*
  3. Gossip Girl
  4. The Flash
  5. Friends
  6. Nashville
  7. The Originals
  8. Vampire Diaries
  9. PLL
  10. How to get away with murder
  11. Jane the Virgin

Who inspires you? 

My mum and Selena Gomez

Favourite Fast Food? 

Do Nandos and TGI’S count????

Favourite Music Genre?

Country

Favourite Film?

The Princess Bride and everything by John Hughes

If you could go back to any decade in the 1900s, what one would it be and why? 

The 80’s. I have a slight obsession with the eighties era from the films to music, it was just such a fun time to be a teen especially.

Family Guy or American Dad?

Family Guy

Sunrises or sunsets?

Sunsets

What’s your favourite Disney movie?

The Incredibles

 

What superhero/villian would you like to be? 

Ugh such an evil question! It’s so hard to pick one but I would probably say Black Widow. Who wouldn’t want to be a strong, bad-ass independent woman.

What do you look for in a potential bae?

  1. A sense of adventure
  2. An open mind
  3. Intelligence
  4. Humour
  5. A man bun/or just nice hair in general tbh

Top 5 Male celeb crushes?

  1. Matthew Noszka
  2. Harry Styles
  3. Jensen Ackles
  4. Chris Evans A.K.A Captain Fricking America
  5. Roman Reigns

Most embarrassing moment?

Crashing into a wall after making the decision to ride down the hill in my garden, on a bike with no helmet and smashing my head open. Yep it was as gory as it sounds but does it help that I was only like 5 or 6 at the time so was pretty naive when it came to sense of judgement.


My friends sent me wayyyy too many questions so I could probably continue for days but I am going to make the smart, conscious decision to stop here before I spiral out of control. Hope you enjoyed reading all about moi!

Luhhhh you lovelies,

Until next time x

Mind Over Matter

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So lately I have found it hard to post on my blog and it hasn’t been because I didn’t want to or anything like that. Weirdly, I have felt a disconnect with my writing and couldn’t bring myself to start putting pen to paper and hand to keyboard; often writers will describe what is commonly known as ‘writers block’ as a hindrance to their creativity but a necessary evil- I completely disagree. I hate this feeling, I hate that I am in a place where I don’t believe in my writing because I have come so far. I hate that whenever I type something, my first reaction is to delete everything because I don’t like the way it sounds. I hate that I don’t think my writing is personal enough and shows who I am because it does, at least thats what I used to think.

Part of me feels like the time I have had away was beneficial and allowed me to get my head straight, whilst the other half feels as though I am inadequate. You see, no one ever tells you how crazy of a journey creativity can be and that your best isn’t always good enough. They don’t tell you that good mental health and the ability to create is very much interlinked because these last few weeks I have felt distanced from my normal state of being… I have had this dreaded feeling that something was off and when I think about all the stuff thats happened to me in the time that I have been away, it feels so wrong to say that because in retrospect these last couple have been some of the best I have ever had so why do I feel like everything is wrong.

In the time that I have been away I have been offered the biggest opportunity of my life *more on that soon*, attempted to start a vegetarian diet, gone to a really shoddy 90’s party and turned 19. In other news there is now only 49 days until christmas which means a new Micheal Buble album is out and supermarkets are already stripping down halloween decorations in favour for stuffed santas and mistletoe, oh yeah and the clocks went back meaning it might be time to dust off those puffer jackets.

Maybe I am just suffering from the winter blues, it wouldn’t be the first time that the cold, dark winter nights made me feel anxious and quite frankly probably won’t be the last but I also know that I need to begin getting my mind aligned with my body because right now the two are playing a game of tug of war with my emotions. I also don’t think it helps that I suffer from PCOS and with my hormones so out of control, I often suffer from horrible mood swings. But one thing is for sure I need to fix my self because this blog is far too important for me to fall off, I promise that I will overcome this and get back to blogging because I love all of you doves.

Until next time,

Savannah x

 

 

Toffee Apple Cake Recipe

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There is now officially only 21 days left until the controversial holiday that gets everyone talking-Halloween. Depending on personal belief, you either love it, hate it or have no opinion other than the fact that you use it as a way for free candy. I am part of the latter group haha, you had me at free candy. But one thing that I always loved growing up around Halloween was Toffee Apples, they always seemed like the weirdest combination but actually served to be one of the nicest winter treats. So, when trying to figure out what to write about this week I figured why not combine halloween and food all in one post because isn’t that pretty much what Halloween is all about anyway.

A few days ago when I was stalking the internet, as you do. I came across this Toffee apple cake recipe designed as a winter/Halloween treat so I figured I would share it with you guys.


Ingredients: 

  • 150ml Vegetable oil, plus extra for greasing
  • 175g Dark brown soft sugar
  • 2 Large eggs
  • 250g eating apples (roughly 3-grated)
  • 200g self-raising flour
  • 2 tsp ground cinnamon
  • 1 tsp ground ginger
  • 1 tsp bicarbonate of soda
  • 25g rolled oats
  • 50g ground almonds
  • 100g sultanas
  • zest 1 lemon

For the filling and decoration:

  • juice 1 lemon
  • 4 eating apple
  • 25g butter
  • 50g dark brown soft sugar
  • 1 tbsp golden syrup
  • ¼ tsp cinnamon
  • 100g white caster sugar (optional, for the tiny toffee apples)

For the syrup:

  • 75g dark brown soft sugar
  • juice 1 lemon
  • 1 tbsp water

For the icing:

  • 50g butter
  • 100g white chocolate
  • 280g tub cream cheese
  • 1 vanilla pod, seeds only
  • 170g pot Greek yogurt

Note: YOU WILL NEED 8 WOODEN SKEWERS FOR THE TINY TOFFEE APPLES)

 

METHOD:

  1. Start by making the cakes. Heat oven to 180C/160C fan/gas 4. Line 2 x 18cm springform cake tins with baking parchment and brush with a little oil. Put the sugar and eggs in a large mixing bowl and whisk with electric beaters until glossy and pale. Keep the beaters running as you pour in the oil.
  2. Stir in the grated apple, then fold in all the other cake ingredients. Divide the mixture between the tins and bake for 30 mins or until a skewer inserted into the middle comes out clean.
  3. While the cakes cook, prepare the apple filling. Tip the lemon juice into a large bowl and fill halfway with cold water. Peel the apples, then cut into spheres using a melon baller – pop them in the bowl of lemon water as you go to stop them discolouring. In a medium saucepan, combine the butter, dark brown sugar, golden syrup, cinnamon and 200ml water, and heat until boiling. Take the apple balls out of the water and put them in the pan –if you want to make the tiny toffee apples for the top, keep 8 apple balls in the water until needed. Bring the mixture in the pan back to the boil for 8 – 10 mins or until the apples are soft but not losing their shape, and a thick syrup starts to form. Remove from the heat and allow to cool completely, then chill until needed.
  4. Stir all the syrup ingredients together in a bowl. When the cakes are cooked, keep them in the tin but prick holes all over the surface with a skewer and drizzle the syrup over. Leave the cakes to cool completely in the tin.
  5. While the cakes cool, make the icing. In a small heatproof bowl set over a pan of simmering water, melt the butter and white chocolate together. Once melted and glossy, pour into a large bowl. Add the cream cheese, whisk until smooth, then add the vanilla. Finally, fold in the yogurt. When the mixture is cool, chill until needed.
  6. To assemble the cake, take the cooled sponges out of their tins and put one of them on a cake stand. Top with half the white chocolate icing – use a spoon or pipe it using a very large round nozzle. Scatter the cooked apple pieces, along with a drizzle of the syrup, over the icing, then place in the fridge to firm up for 15 mins. Add the top layer of the cake, then decorate with the rest of the icing by piping it in lots of regular little mounds all over the top using a large round nozzle. Put the whole cake in the fridge until ready to serve. Will keep for 2 days in the fridge.
  7. For a showstopping, but optional, finish, make some beautiful miniature toffee apples. Their effect is stunning but fleeting, so make them just before serving your cake, as the caramel will dissolve quickly due to the moisture in the air. Brush a baking tray with a little vegetable oil and set aside. Very thoroughly dry the reserved apple balls from step 3 of the cake with kitchen paper or a clean tea towel and insert a long wooden skewer into each one.
  8. Put the caster sugar in a small saucepan over a medium heat, stirring often, until the sugar melts. Keep cooking until the sugar has become a liquid golden caramel, then remove from the heat. If it looks like it’s getting too hot, sit the base of the pan in a heatproof dish of cold water.
  9. Tilt the pan and, working quickly (as the sugar will continue to cook), hold the apple balls by the skewer and dip each one in turn into the caramel and twist it around to coat it. It’s really important that the apple balls are well dried and that you don’t turn them in the hot caramel more than twice, otherwise the apple will cook and release liquid, which will stop the caramel from sticking. As soon as they are coated, slowly lift them out vertically. Hold the apple up out of the pan and pause before transferring it to the oiled tray on its side. Holding it up like this will allow a long drip of caramel to set hard and create a beautiful long spike. Repeat the process with the rest of the apples, working quickly so that the caramel doesn’t harden completely before all the apples have been coated. However, don’t worry too much as you can always gently reheat it over a low heat before continuing – just be careful not to burn it, otherwise it will taste bitter.
  10. After a couple of minutes, the apples should have set. When they are cool enough to handle, pull out the skewers. Place the apples on top of the cake so that the spike is pointing upwards and the base of the apple (where the skewer was) is pressed into the icing. Serve immediately.

 

15 things I’ve learnt at 18

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So, I turn 19 next month which is just really depressing because I am finally starting to get old. One minute you’re 10 and desperately want to turn eighteen and then it comes and all you realise is that everything after that point requires actual adulting which as I said before is just depressing. The good thing about growing up though is the life lessons you acquire along the way and believe me when I say I have learnt a lot, so I decided to share some with you today.

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#Life Lesson One: Friends can be family too 

One thing that I have come to realise is that the lines between family and friends can often become blurred and that’s okay. There really is nothing wrong with having close friends that you consider family, especially if they are at times more there for you than those that are meant to be your blood. I come from an extremely small family and more times often than not, my close friends have been my support system and cared about me way more than any member of my extended family and it is something I will always be grateful. My girl gang aren’t just my best friends, they are my sisters and my future bridesmaids *haha*. But most importantly, they are my family ❤

#Life Lesson Two: You have to love yourself first

One thing that no one ever tells you is that as much as we all desire to have that disney fairytale ending in terms of finding love, that is merely just an afterthought if we are not in love with ourselves. To love someone other than yourself requires a lot of time and energy and if we are not happy within ourselves, it is likely that you will settle for less simply because it is what you think you deserve. Over time I have come to realise that there is nothing wrong with learning who you are and overcoming insecurities before committing yourself to a relationship; if anything it just makes you strong. 

#Life Lesson Three: The minute someone shows you their true colours, drop them

There was a time when I was very naive and believed in giving people that I thought were my friends multiple chances, even they had already hurt me a lot of times already. I believed that I could change them but one thing you will come to realise as you get older is that no one can be changed or helped, if it isn’t something they want for themselves. 

#Life Lesson Four: Girl Crushes are normal 

Believe me when I say that identifying as a straight girl doesn’t mean that you can’t appreciate other girls more than guys or have a girl crush, mine is Selena Gomez and everyone knows she is the only girl I would ever consider kissing but it doesn’t define my sexuality or who I am. Anyone that tells you different is a dumb-ass. 

#Life Lesson Five: Fangirling obsessively is not something to be ashamed of

I am a massive fangirl and  not ashamed to say so, I fangirl over everything from celebrities to reality tv. I am a shameless fangirl even though I am approaching the adult life, I know that meeting Selena Gomez in ten years time will still have me crying hysterically. 

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#Life Lesson Six: People hate the word ‘equality’ 

I consider myself an activist for both the LGBT community and Black community, as well as an identifying intersectional feminist. However, one thing that I have noticed during my many online debates is that people are genuinely scared of the word equality, particularly when are in a group that does not experience marginalisation or exploitation. I often feel that they fear having equality for all will hinder their sad, pathetic existence in the world. 

#Life Lesson Seven: It’s okay not to be okay

There are going to be times that you break down in front of those girls you don’t like or cry yourself to sleep because everyone has experienced the ‘night-time blues’ where it seems like all your problems come rushing to the surface at once. Accepting that you are in a bad place is the first step you can take in order to heal, even if it feels like no one will understand please tell someone because the longer you leave things to fester is the worse you will. 

#Life Lesson Eight: I will likely never be religious

Religion has never been my thing and likely never will. I can not bring myself to read religious texts or attend a place of worship when there are a lot of ideas within religions that I disagree with and conflict with my personal views. E.g religion is often used as a driving force to normalise homophobia and regard same sex relationships as immoral which is something I will never accept or be okay with. Personally, I identify as a spiritual person and am currently transitioning to Buddhism so I can work on becoming more in tune with my mind. 

#Life Lesson Nine: You cant take it with when you go

In this materialistic world we live in where everyone seems to be obsessed with consumer goods and the notion of being rich, it seems as though we have lost sight of what actually matters. Money is a luxury not a necessity and it is not as if we can take it with us when we die so why not just enjoy and appreciate this life we have been given. 

#Life Lesson Ten: Nothing can compare to eighties films

Eighties cinema was and continues to be the greatest era in cinema, it remains the most daring as it never shyed away from talking about topics such as abortion, feminism, sexuality etc. The eighties also gave us John Hughes- the man who pretty much invented the coming of age genre with films such as the breakfast club, pretty in pink and sixteen candles under his belt. I could go on and on about how great of a time it was but I shall save that for another post. 

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#Life Lesson Eleven: Adventure is key

Life is full of adventure so make sure to chase it. Go and find the pot at the end of the rainbow. 

#Life Lesson Twelve: You will never truly find yourself

You will spend your whole life searching for yourself but you will never truly get there. The reason for this is that we are constantly soul searching and changing, the person you were yesterday probably isn’t the same person you are today. Thus, learning who you really are will probably prove to be a difficult task. 

#Life Lesson Thirteen: Hard work pays off

Hard work is a necessity. Those who dream prosper only when they take their goals and do something with it, never settle for less than you know you can achieve. 

#Life Lesson Fourteen: Lemon is the key

Drinking hot lemon tea is often the best detox you could ever wish for after too much drinks on a night out. Not only does it seriously debloat your stomach, it also provides much health benefits such as preventing cancer and diabetes. 

#Life Lesson Fifteen: Birthdays just get lame once you hit eighteen 

I love birthdays but as I get older they are just seemingly becoming more and more monotonous; a day that I once counted down the days to is now just a reminder that I am getting old.  

 

Until next time,

Savannah 

xox